Who is the Ideal Muslim Teenager?

This thought has been provoking me for a while...

Who is the ideal Muslim teenager?

One would say that the ideal Muslim teenager is the one who fulfills his or her rights in Islam such as he prays his obligatory prayers or she fasts during the month of Ramadhan...

Others would say that in Islam, there's really no "teenager", they're are actually adults, just younger.

But living in the west, there's a difference between a teenager and an adult. The teenager does not necessarily do what the adult does in the society.

When teens become teens, they see the true reality in life. They realize that life isn't always a ray of sunshine, they figure out that their parents aren't perfect, they start to think for themselves and do things their way.

But what if you are a Muslim teenager and you already knew all that? What if you already knew that life isn't fair and that parents are not perfect? If we look closely at hows Islam describes what a teenager is and what the society describes what a teenager is, we'll see a big difference.

Islam's Teenager:

• Prays 5 times a day
• Fasts the holy month of Ramadhan
• Enjoins what is good and forbid what is evil
• Lowers his or her gaze
• Respects his or her dress code
• Acquires knowledge
  
• Does not mix with the opposite gender
• Picks his friends wisely
• Participates with the community
• Is active and productive
  
• Does not despair from Allah's mercy
• Has a bigger goal in mind
• Follows the Qur'an and Sunnah
  
• Loves for his brother what he loves for himself
  

Society's Teenager:

• Acquires knowledge
  
• Has a bunch of friends
• Tries to fit in with the crowd
  
• Does after school activities, has a hobby
  
• Participates with the community
• Likes what the other kids like
• Checks out the opposite gender
  
• Can be lazy
• Atitude
  
• Gets Teenage Angst
• Can be moody
• Feels lost
• Wants to be known
• Wants to be the best
  
• Constantly changes
• Is pretty much hated by adults
• Always tries something new
• Wants to be treated as a 'big kid'
• Pushes and hides himself or herself from the older
  
• Complains that no one 'gets him'
• So utterly confused
• Lets society show him or her who they really are
• Two words. Peer Pressure

Obviously there are some things you're just not going to do because it's impermissible in Islam. But there are some things mentioned above that as a teenager, you just face it. Like moodiness, I don't know anyone who has never been moody, it's natural. So is peer pressure, you just got the get the good kind and not the bad one. When the Muslim teenager in the west is fulfilling his or her rights, they are considered to be acting like an adult. Why is that? It makes teenagers sound like immature grown babies.

Once, a friend of mine told me that I looked very mature, that I'm a good girl and is respect-worthy because of how I dressed('abayah) and act.

She was telling be that I should be treated like an adult. Not a teen.

But why? Because I don't go joking with the guys? Because I don't go to parties? Because I don't own a pair of skinny's? That makes me not a teen? I don't think so, I think there's more to it being an adolescent.

Many of the things I've mentioned in the society's teen is in fact seen in the Muslim teen. But how much can you show?

I'm asking if it's possible to combine both and have an ideal Muslim teen in his society (not Muslim adult, but teen [hope that made sense...]).

Pakistan flood appeal- Worse than Tsunami

Help donate inshaAllah. Just look at them, they need their brothers and sisters' help. That's US.

You can donate to :

Islamic Relief
Muslim Hands
Al-Khair Foundation
UWT (Ummah Welfare Trust)

Remember: Any charity will do. Be it Red Cross, UNICEF. They all go to Pakistan inshaAllah.

You can also check if your local masjid, musalla or Halal Meat Store is already gathering money for Pakistan.

Help them TODAY.

May Allah swt reward you for your efforts.

ASA.

You just can't get tired of saying this...

Ameen. :)

Ramadhan Mubarak to you and your family. :)

ASA.

*Last Piece of Ramadhan advice!*

Although Ramadhan is just few days away, don't be so sure you're going to make it. It's Allah that is keeping you alive at the moment and if He (swt) willed, He could take it away one minute before Ramadhan. HOPE that you make it inshaAllah.

Make dua that you do make it and that you benefit from it inshaAllah. Try reading up on things to do, participate in the cool activities you can do during this month like : Ramadhan Quran Contest or try to complete the Ramadhan checklist. Read some interesting books, articles, listen to lectures and/or catch some Ramadhan specials coming on HudaTV inshaAllah.

I'm only left to say Ramadhan Mubarak you and your families and may Allah (swt) let you all live to see this Ramadhan. :)

May Allah help us attain Taqwa during this month,
May Allah keep us dutiful to our parents and respect our
elders,
May Allah bringthe ummah closer during this blessed month,
May Allah help us to truly benefit from this month,
May we always remember our Lord every second,
May Allah let us observe Laylatul Qadr,
May Allah accept our duas during this month,
May Allah raise our rank on this month,
May Allah forgive our sins and accept our repentance,
May Allah have mercy on us.

Ameen.


ASA.

Where Do You Stand?

Imam Ibn al-Qayyim al-Jawziyyah said:

"O you of little resolve, where do you stand upon this path? Adam found it difficult and Nuh lamented because of it, while Allaah’s Khaleel Ibraaheem was thrown into a pit of fire due to it. Isma’eel was laid upon his side ready to be sacrificed for its sake, and while upon it Yusuf was sold for a cheap price and then falsely cast into prison for many years. Zakariyah was sawed in half, and Yahya was slaughtered due to it. Ayyub suffered great distress, while Dawood cried copiously, and ‘Isaa cured the wretched poor of their diseases and walked with wild beasts due to it. And how many, how many forms of difficulty and hardship did the Messenger Muhammad (sallallaahu 'alayhi wa sallam) face while proceeding upon it – yet you live through amusements and distractions!"

[al-Fawaaid: Page 41]

Who Can Cure Him?

You'd think that you live to see the next day. Day after day, you do the same thing: wake up, pray, start my day, come home, pray, time for bed, sleep then thinking you'll do the same thing again.

But, what if you don't ?

When your death day comes, will you know that not one can cure you and that your time to return to your lord has come.

I was thinking of this as I was listening to Surah al-Qiyamah. As I was listening, the following ayah came up and struck me.


27. Waqeela man raqin

When I heard that I found it so agonizing. The "Raaq" was very long and saddening. When I went to check it out, it meant (in interpretation and meaning):

27. And it will be said: "Who can cure him (and save him from death)?"

SubhanAllah. Who, who can cure him? One will know it's his death day, there's no cure, it's just time.

28. And he (the dying person) will conclude that it was (the time) of parting (death);
29. And one leg will be joined with another leg (shrouded)
30. The drive will be, on that Day, to your Lord (Allâh)!

To Allah we belong and to him we shall return to. It's just a matter of time...

May Allah help us benefit from our time. Ameen.
ASA.

It Has Been Narrated by...

Narrated Shaddad bin Aus :

The Prophet said " The best way for asking forgiveness from Allah is saying : O Allah , you are my Lord , no God Except you , you created me and I am your slave , and I am on your covenant and your promise as long as I can , I seek refuge in you from evil which I did , I confess to you in your grace , and I confess to you in my sin, forgive me , only you forgive the Sins "

The Prophet added. "If somebody recites it during the day with
firm faith in it, and dies on the same day before the evening,
he will be from the people of Paradise; and if somebody
recites it at night with firm faith in it, and dies before the
morning, he will be from the people of Paradise"
Sahih Al-Bukhari

عن شداد بن أوس، عن النبي صلى الله عليه وسلم قال: "سيد الاستغفار، أن يقول: اللهم أنت ربي، لا إله إلا أنت، خلقتني وأنا عبدك، وأنا على عهدك ووعدك ما استعطت، أعوذ بك من شر ما صنعتُ، أبوء لك بنعمتك، و أبوء لك بذنبي فاغفر لي؛ فإنه لا يغفر الذنوب إلا أنت". قال: " من قالها من النهار موقِناً بها، فمات من يومه قبل أن يمسي فهو من أهل الجنة، ومن قالها من الليل وهو موقن بها، فمات قبل أن يصبح فهو من أهل الجنة"
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